Its the bond that matters

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Designers around the world are now discussing the problems of waste and realising that it is because the materials we have designed are not biodegradable that most of the problem arises.
This means that natural processes of degradation are not able to break the bonds between materials that humans design. Tetrapak for example, is a material designed by fusing four materials together. It is totally non biodegradable.
Is there something for us to learn here?
Bonds between atoms, molecules and individual organisms in Nature are strong enough to retain the individuality of the unit, but also vulnerable to breakage. The balance between these two qualities are what keeps the cycle of creation and destruction dynamic and alive.
There is a difference between love and attachment. Love is about flow, about exchange of energy but also about freedom for the individual. Love connects yet allows.
Durability is also another word for attachment. Yet when friendships get overwhelmed by attachment, they don’t survive. It is the quality of the bond that matters.
A new school of thought in design philosophy is now looking at designing for disassembly. It focuses on joinery between materials that maintains the integrity of each and yet allows them to work together and fulfil a function together. When the product reaches the end of its lifecycle, it can easily be broken apart into its individual elements and they can be recycled as needed.
How do we change our need for attachment into a love that allows energies to flow naturally? To accept that lifespans are limited and that the end of things is as important as the beginning?
It occurs to me that the quality of our bonds change when we discover that the connection is not between two things that are separate from each other. I am only attached to you as long as I feel that I am different from you. When I experience you as a part of myself, my need to hold onto you dissolves. And the same applies to my attachment to objects and to my body.
Refining and reviewing our connections to the world around us, we discover that our external bonds are as fragile or as strong as our inner connection. Our ability to love and connect freely, is as strong as our acceptance that bonds also need to break.

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